As a leader, watching someone on your team grow into their next opportunity can feel like a double-edged sword: pride in their progress paired with the sting of loss. You want to be the kind of leader who champions careers. However, when that growth means leaving the team, it can get complicated.
How do you strike the right balance?
How do you mentor someone without micromanaging their path or worse, stalling it?
Here are a few tips for mentoring and encouraging upward or outward mobility, from someone who has moved for career advancements personally.
1. Normalize Career Growth — Even if It Means Leaving
If your team only hears praise for loyalty and longevity, they’ll feel torn when ambition pulls them elsewhere. Set a tone early that career progression is expected and supported both inside and outside your organization. Be focused on helping your team grow, even if one day that growth takes them beyond your team and organization.
When people know you care about them beyond their current role, they’re more likely to bring you into the conversation early, not at the resignation letter stage.
2. Shift From Ownership to Stewardship
It’s easy to feel possessive of top talent, especially if you’ve invested time and energy in their success. But strong leaders don’t own people, they steward their growth. Make sure you are not holding onto talent because they are essential, and you are uncomfortable with change. Be proud to see them thrive somewhere else.
3. Build Development into the Everyday
Don’t wait for someone to express a desire to leave to start talking about development. Regularly check in with team members on skills they want to develop, experiences they’re curious about, and roles they envision long-term. Regardless of if they stay, the investment pays off in motivation and a feeling that they matter to the team and organization.
4. Celebrate Wins with Grace
When someone lands a new opportunity, fight the urge to make it personal. Reinforce how proud you are of them, how they have earned the new opportunity and how grateful you are for everything they contributed to the team. That moment of grace will define how people remember your leadership.
5. Create a Legacy Culture
When people leave, help them shape their legacy. Have them document their knowledge, mentor others, or reflect on what they learned. Let them know their time mattered and contributions made a difference. Make sure the team hears you and sees you championing growth for those that stay and those that go.
People don’t just talk about how you managed them, they talk about how you supported their next move. Be the kind of leader they thank in LinkedIn posts, job interviews, and years down the road. In the end, your legacy as a leader isn’t how many people stay under you, it’s how many grow because of you.